我12岁了。这是我的突破。我紧张地在第二个基板前跳舞，阳光在我的脖子上。通常我被降级到外场，但不是今天。wh！撞球撞到了我，跳跃和跳过干燥的污垢。我弯下腰来抓住它。我错过了。我在它之后爬行，最后抓住我的手。我疯狂地扔到了第一个基地，没有意识到跑步者已经围绕了角落，并朝第二次。 The ball sailed over the first baseman’s head and another runner crossed home plate. It was all the other team needed to win the game. It was the end of my baseball career. I quit the team after that game. I am a recovering perfectionist. I have spent most of my life trying to live up to ridiculously high expectations of my own making. If I couldn’t do something well, I wouldn’t do it. Fear of failure narrowed my experiences. While it can have its merits, perfectionism can also be a curse. I see stirrings of it in my oldest: The pressure she puts on herself to do everything “right,” her reluctance to try new things for fear of failing, her quickness to apologize when she makes a mistake. She and I are not the only ones.
结果？具有自定向完美主义的大学生人数上升了10％，社会规定的完美主义已经上升33％，其他导向的完美主义增加了16％。过去27年来促进完美主义的这种兴起是什么？Curran引用了更高水平的自恋，倾向和自信，今天在大学生的同情和受害者责备。他还认为，唯物主义的增加，高等教育程度预期，竞争环境以及社会媒体的压力，以达到其他人的公共形象是可能的罪魁祸首。另一个贡献因素？父母。和我们一样。我们已经变得更加焦虑，苛刻和控制而不是过去几代人。在他们的研究中，Curran和Hill发现“在一个重点货币财富和社会站在促进文化中提高成功儿童的压力，对父母的行为有几种后果。” As a result, parents have become more involved in their children’s academic and social lives in an attempt to propel their children to a successful future. Striving for perfection however, comes with a price. It’s a breeding ground for mental health issues. It has been linked to depression, poor body image, eating disorders, social isolation, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts.